When I began this countdown to the Big Baby Gender Reveal it unexpectedly started something, and actually got me thinking about some of the questions I/we have about becoming fathers. Questions we ask ourselves, or questions people will ask us during the pregnancy, and even after our baby is born. And in the end I was surprised how many QUESTIONS popped in to my head instantaneously.
Some were making me a bit nervous...Others were just plain funny (like would I subject a girl to the Diana Ross Supremes photo shoot, afro wig and all, like Cam did on "Modern Family"???). In a way, this little time-passing exercise I put upon myself leading up to Christmas Day is allowing us to explore what makes us truly giddy and over-the-moon about having a child, but also what we are most apprehensive about or what we may have some struggles with. Ahhhhh, the irony!
Today's question has been asked many times since we got pregnant and even during the process of trying to get pregnant. I understand it's done in the most innocent and inquisitive way possible, but every time it's posed, I do the squirmy dance inside:
"So, whose sperm did you use?"
Again, I know it's an innocent question, but in the end, does it really matter??? Ultimately we will both be fathers of this child (for eternity, I might add), but for some reason this is one of the first questions people ask when they find out we're having a baby. Our somewhat standard answer is that we both tried, and this time it just happened to work with one of us. But other times we actually DO say, "does it really matter???"