Once again it's taken days to write this -- April got her period on Sunday. I dunno people. Give me some advice here. This is attempt number five and while we got pregnant on the second try, it's been tough to keep the flame burning with the way we are doing it. And to think we were so pumped just six months ago, thinking that this was the one...and here we are...considering what to do next, with who, and how, when, etc etc.
Maybe I should just stop blogging, get busy, and announce that we have a baby when we ACTUALLY have one...instead of complaining about it on here.
Ok, buh bye...we've got our work cut out for us.
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so sorry guys!!!!
ReplyDeleteOr perhaps you should Blog even more. At least you can get your frustration out by putting the words down on paper. Well, not paper, but you know what I mean. And just maybe, without even knowing it, you could be helping someone else along with their process.
ReplyDeleteTake care and don't give up. No one likes a quitter. But anyway, regardless of the path, there is a child out there for you.
Your Friend, m.
Definately NOT complaining guys!! We will be on attempt #4 and we feel the SAME way!! back at square one...thank god u post so i can feel like we are not alone in this and its not just us. You guys write and it gives the rest of us hope because of your determination...please dont let this keep you back from your dreams!! we are all here for u guys! I use to think the same way, "why post & complain, just post when we have the baby" but its a way to vent and gain support.
ReplyDeleteHang in there, love from Jersey!
Dammit! I was...we all were...hoping to see good news!
ReplyDeleteWe are thinking of you both.
Wow - 5 attempts!!! I'm so sorry for you guys. I hate that for you. I know it has to be a struggle and test of your insanity..hang in there. I hope it works out for you both. I can't imagine that pain!!
ReplyDeleteI am SO sorry about this. I don't really know what to advise you to do next. On the one hand, you know your surrogate can get pregnant as she has already been for you you, but since you've already tried multiple times, may be it is time to think about the gestational surrogacy / IVF option again. Traditional surrogacy doesn't readily allow you "mix-up" the scenarios (different donor - different surrogate), so if it isn't working after 2 or 3 attempts, it is probably time to move on... I don't think there is a right answer here but this is what I would do. Take care.
ReplyDeleteI’m so sorry you have to go through another negative. You are going through a frustrating journey at the moment and have every right to feel sad and disappointed. Please don’t feel like you can’t blog about it though because the trials of the journey to become parents are just as valid as the happy pictures of the developing baby/babies. I don’t know how many times I’ve seen the comments you left on other people’s blogs that are so compassionate and well thought out and summarized the intent of what I was thinking so much better than I ever could. You guys are going to be amazing parents.
ReplyDeleteDon't give up, it will happen for you. A lot of us have been in your shoes in one sense or another. It took my wife and I 3 years to have our Emma and she is was worth every heart breaking negative test we took. Just know that you have lots of support.
ReplyDeleteI have no advice other than hang in there. Negatives are stupid and wrong and horrible, but at least you're trying!!! Stats for actually getting pregnant with IUI each month are something like 25% - seems really low to me, but the more you keep trying the higher your odds. Next month, okay guys (and gal). Bring on the good news. The wait is worth it.
ReplyDeleteThis is my first time to visit you blog. I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know much about your past but please keep trying and blogging. There are so many out there going through what you are and need to hear you words. I pray that soon you will have you r miracle.
ReplyDeleteAgain I don’t now much about your history but have you ever thought of trying a different surrogate? I see that this surrogate has have previous pregnancies that resulted in births but has she ever had a birth with the help of fertility drugs? Just something to look into. Maybe her body doesn’t agree with the drugs.
Prayers and Hugs being sent your way.
Tanna
Big hugs to you guys. Hang in there and don't stop blogging or trying. You'll get there!
ReplyDeleteIt can definitely not be an easy journey for some of us, like it has been for both you and I, Doug. At the end of my fifth attempt I was at the bottom of the down and demoralized scale. My family was very concerned about me and wanted me to stop and take time to reflect. I had isolated myself from friends because it's just a roller coaster ride with lots of ups and downs and I didn't think anybody would understand. It's been a long time coming but the 6th time we changed the egg donor and surrogate and the result was positive. While I agree with Mark and don't think you should give up as you guys are destined to be parents, I'm cheering you on and whatever you decide you have the support of the community here.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your experiences of surrogacy, eventhough its not easy...
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I'm so sorry that it hasn't worked out for you guys. My partner and I started TS back in September of 2010. We've gone through 5 surrogates, and have done 4 cycles so far with the most current surrogate. I completely understand your frustration...to be honest, we are beginning to feel ok about not having a kid. We feel life can still be fulfilling without one. Anyone feel the same way?
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