Monday, December 6, 2010

Light at the end of the tunnel

Finally a sign that our next attempt is in clear sight. It's been over 4 weeks since the miscarriage and over two months since our surrogate's last period, so we are definitely ready for our third attempt...December 15th our next round of inseminations begin (oh joy). Apparently our surrogate dreamed about this monster of a period coming and there it was the next day...(I think she actually called it a tsunami-like period but maybe that's too much sharing for this blog). And hey, is it truth or just myth that says women can be more fertile after a miscarriage? I'm staying positive and saying "YES"...

I'll tell ya, once we are fathers I'll be so glad to NOT worry about tracking "Aunt Flo" or the other multitude of nicknames a woman's period has (props to you girls!). We'll be done with that part...and many of you have said that once the little miracle DOES arrive, all the work that led up to it, the worrying, the tracking, the flying to India, the fertility drugs, the money, the search for another surrogate and egg donor, the inseminations...and on and on, really does become the distant past. And the most important thing is that you have this new life and light in your life. We are just SO READY, and had no idea what it would take to get there. But here we are, still marching forward. I have to say there are times that I look at our blog friends who have had their child(ren), some who I started following after our failed attempts in India, and can't help but scratch my hairless head and wonder why Bill and I are still at ground zero. I know this will happen, it's just crazy how much something like this can test you, your relationship, and your faith in something that really is out of your control (and body, for that matter). And as I said in August 2009 regarding my worries of failing in India (which seems like a lifetime ago), we just have to trust the universe.

I hope this finds everyone enjoying the Christmas spirit, their new arrivals and preparing for the merriest time of the year. More news from the flight deck soon...

D & B


  1. Fingers, toes and limbs crossed for you guys. When this happens for you your Kidd(os) will be so lucky to have a couple of AMAZING dads. Good luck guys.

  2. So why are you and Kerrie and Mandy still on this journey? The universe isn't always clear at times - and this is one of them. I remember seeing a tv show a few years back(Touched by an Angel??) where a couple were adopting but the spirit hadn't been returned yet, so they just had to wait (but didn't know why) until they got who they were meant to get. It sounds tacky writing it like this, but the show was really beautiful - and you are going to get who you're meant to get. And, just so we can laugh at you same sex couples even more, I'm going to put a hex on you now so you only get girls and you have to deal with Aunt Flo again in the future. If Mike and Mike + Paul and Edward have all this to look forward to, so can you. :)


  3. Doug,
    You are so determined and it sounds like you have an equally determined, only a matter of time. Can't wait to read that post when all goes according to plan!

    Happy Holidays,
    The boys.

  4. Amen to this post!! great to see you guys are trying just reflected MY THOUGHTS!! i felt as though i wrote this post...we are on ground zero with you, so your never alone!!

    I'm super excited you guys are trying again!!It would be the greatest Christmas/New Year gift ever!! GOOD LUCK!!

  5. I can only imagine how much it has taken for you guys to keep moving forward. It's testament to your love for each other and what strong dads you will some day be. Best wishes as always- K

  6. We are all pulling for you! You WILL be Dads!
    And if you have a little girl, we'll visit Auntie Tigerlilycat together when they are teens so she can explain all the girly stuff! :-)

  7. So nice to have such wonderful support. So so appreciate it guys. We all have this bond, don't we? One that I really do hope continues after we all have what we are searching for. I just know I couldn't have come this far without everyone's help. THANK YOU SO MUCH.

  8. Everything crossed for you guys. Hope this is your time!!!

    It is amazing what you learn about women and there cyccles as a gay man when going through this journey..


  9. You are absolutely right by the way, all our attention is now on Emily and the journey to get her are just distant details. I am only now catching up on all the blog posts. Hopefully soon you won't ever have to worry about "Aunt Flo" again! Sending you positive thoughts!

  10. Doug and Bill,
    I just wanted to wish you a Happy New Year - full of hope, miracles and joy (with lots of diapers and bottles thrown in!). This is your year!!

    Keeping everything crossed that you'll be posting great news, soon....

    Lori (NC)