Friday, November 12, 2010
It's taken a week to write this...
I've thought about it and every time I have to write a negative post it's usually short and sweet. So here it is...this time we most likely had a chemical pregnancy and we lost it last week Thursday. It's taken a while to write this because the day after it happened Bill and I had to go to Florida for his new job. Needless to say traveling to "the happiest place on earth" aka Orlando was a bit strange after we found out but what can we do? We will be trying again after our surrogate gets her next period so that's a positive. At least we got pregnant and know it's possible. That gives us comfort. It'll be nice to get back on Sunday and see our pup Chloe and just be in our own home. More to come...
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
I'm so very sorry. I don't know why some of us have more bumps and hurdles in the journey to having children than others. There is nothing fair or right about it and I don't understand why it often happens to the people who you can tell are going to be the best parents. If it is any consolation, many researchers feel that chemical pregnancies are more common than previously thought and most women never know they even had one. Your surrogate must be very fertile to fall pregnant on the second try so hopefully it won't take long to end in success.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Amber
Thanks Amber. And I'm soooooooo happy for you and Brian. I know this will happen for us, too. And like you said it's a numbers game. Big hugs back.
ReplyDeleteD
So sorry guys. Just know that you are not alone. So many of us that follow your blog know how hard this time is for you. This too shall pass.
ReplyDeleteThanks Rhonda. Appreciate the support. My grandfather always used to say "this too shall pass" and I agree. Anxious to start the next attempt!
ReplyDeleteDamn. Sorry to hear this guys. We're all cheering for your next try!
ReplyDeleteK
Thanks Kevin. So good to know we've got some positive energy out there in blog land. Same goes for you guys!
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear your news - hope next time is the lucky one :-)
ReplyDeleteMy twin and his wife tried for years. His wife endured a great deal of pain and frustration through IVF. Just when they were taking a break from all the drugs and an emotional break, it happened to the old fashioned way. It will happen to you two. Keep the faith as Edward would advise. It will sustain you and keep you moving forward. It is what sustained us and so many who go down the path of becoming parents.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear this. You're right, you did get pregnant, you are trying again, it's now a waiting game til you next post good news : )
ReplyDeleteMike: thank you. Your blog was the first one I found on surrogacy in India. I remember googling Dr. Kaushal Kadam and there was your blog with her photo posted on it after you had the girls. It was so reassuring knowing that you had done this successfully. And while I know our story hasn't been the same thus far, I do know it will happen -- and faith and those of you on this blog who encourage Bill and I are such a huge part of the experience. Mahalo! :-)
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear about this news. I'm back in Mumbai, about to start my 6th attempt. I decided to come back after taking some time to reflect when, as I believe you know, the 5th time was negative and after the 3rd when I lost the baby. Everybody here is taking care of me and I'm feeling more pumped than ever with the progress that I'm making. I'm glad to see in your comments here you're committed to staying positive and it will happen for both of us :)
ReplyDeleteBeen thinking about you guys lots. Gave a minute of silent prayer for you both at mass last weekend. Some of us don't have the luxury of an easy journey...just makes it all the more worthwhile Doug. Take good care.
ReplyDeleteGo for it Tobian!! Thinking good good thoughts for all of us!
ReplyDeleteTerry: as I said to Mike and Mike, you and Steve were the first blogs I found on surrogacy in India and you (among many others) have stayed with Bill and I this whole time and it REALLY REALLY means a lot and reinforces the faith that if we stick with it, it'll happen. Thank you for thinking of us.
ReplyDeleteOh Guys! I am truly sorry but i'm glad you are moving forward. Its so hard for us all to hear when one of our own has a negative...but its your determination that inspires us ALL!!
ReplyDeleteespecially me, going on attempt #4...dont know when yet though, hehe.
GOOD LUCK!! ALL THE BEST!!
I have nothing else new to add except keep the faith as it WILL happen. The amount of babies born to IP bloggers is huge, and we're looking forward to the day that you guys (plus Kerrie and Mandy) welcome your new arrival/s into your lives.
ReplyDelete