Details, details...

I thought I would write a short post just to give people a better idea of what we are doing. As I said earlier, we are using a surro in the U.S. who was introduced to us a couple months ago by mutual friends and we actually flew out to the east coast to meet her last month. Our previous "meeting of the surrogate" when we were in India was awkward, done in the hallway at the fertility clinic, and well, there wasn't much to be said for the exchange (as she did not speak English nor did we speak Hindi), so it was what it was. We were thankful and tried to show it as best as we could. This time, though, it was ideal, as we all had dinner together at our mutual friends' home and had a chance to really talk and get to know each other. So we were very grateful to have that time with her in much less stressful surroundings. We returned home knowing we wanted to pursue this and so we started the proverbial ball rolling...

So while the goal has never changed (goal = healthy baby), there ARE a few different players and we are just as excited as ever to get started. Most likely we'll start cycling in the next couple months or so but still waiting on a few details. Once things are confirmed and we are 100% sure on everything we'll share more. I guess we're just being a little cautious since this is all such a crazy ride -- we learned after our first two attempts that nothing is guaranteed but if you just keep your "eyes on the prize" (as the two Mike's told me a year ago), it'll happen. There is so much we've learned in the past year it's amazing. Whether it's surrogacy overseas or in the U.S. or anywhere else, what's crystal clear is that the shared journey of "looking for a baby" is the same. Sometimes it works immediately and sometimes it takes some time to get it right. Thanks everyone for all the support, for opening up your lives and sharing so others could learn, for being pioneers, and being courageous. :-)

Our next attempt...

Aloha Everyone...nothing super definitive just yet but the last few days some things have come together for our next attempt. We are lining up some final details on the contract and talking to a fertility clinic, running tests and shipping sperm (again). Doing all of this in the U.S. is a bit different and I'd have to say there are positive and negatives, but we feel we have a good bunch of "players" for the stage, as Edward said in his blog recently... the only thing is I don't want it to go on for seven ages (!) :-)...

More to come but our 99.9% sure surro is amazing, funny, smart, tested and understands the idea of an alternative family -- she's also pretty fertile and loves doing research on how to get pregnant...we love her...

I'll keep sending out updates but just wanted to get something out to those who are following...

Have we lost you yet???????

Gird your loins because this is happening...again!

Hugs to all,

Doug and Bill